Love on social media

In this new age of social media, can relationships be what they used to be? Can you love someone unconditionally without showing the world how much you love someone? Of course you can but there are people who choose to document their relationship online for the whole world to see?

Getting more “likes” or more “views” or simply just more engagement has become far more important to people than many other meaningful things that we could label as meaningful only a few years ago. We are now seeing people share the most intimate part of their lives as a show to gain an audience and a following to ultimately gain a more monetary status. This is more than a reality TV show, this is reacting to people, demanding to see the ins and outs of the life you live.

But is this really a meaningful relationship? Is sharing every facet of your life keeping your relationship together? If it is… Is that true love?

Trends and social stigmas

We’re living in a life full of trends and what I like to call “the new age of peer pressure.” We’re now more so than ever trying to fit in with our social crowd and doing things that we would have never thought about doing five, ten or even fifteen years ago.

Let’s look at tattoos, gluten free or even veganism and try and understand how and why these have become social trends. Yes, people are educating themselves and become more “open” about such things but people are also seeking a way to become a part of a social setting that where they can “fit in.” With the rise of social and digital media, information is much easier to grasp that in the 90s and we’re being taught or some may say “brainwashed” into following trends unconsciously.

But maybe there’s a point to that…

Non-verbal communication has taken over

We do not need to communicate verbally anymore. We are living in an age of technology innovations where the need to interact with someone with speech has disappeared. With messaging based apps on the rise and the comfort of expressing your mind over a screen rather than face to face takes over, verbal communication will continue to dwindle.

The future will host a world of virtual reality and augmented reality taking non-verbal communication that much further.

Can we learn from Wikipedia?

Wikipedia is popular because it contains a wealth of information made for people by people that for the most part consists of correct material.

However, there are many people who don’t believe in the power of Wikipedia and do not accept it as a format of knowledge.

Just because everyone and anyone can publish on Wikipedia even if they’re not a well-known journalist, even if they’re not a New York Times best seller or even if they’re not a published academic does not mean that their points are invalid or untrue.

But what can we learn from this domain and why is it one of the most visited websites in the world?

Will our children’s, children’s, children require intimate human interaction and companionship?

It’s hard to believe that several generations down the line of present day won’t require human companionship the way we do today. In some instances, it becomes difficult to wrap our heads around the idea that going out with friends on a Friday afternoon after work to grab a few drinks won’t exist. Or having a general face-to-face catch up with good friends will simply always result to a mode of communication through technology.

In a way, humans will always need the companionship of other humans at least for the purpose of reproduction. But thinks again, do we actually need ‘companionship’ to create other beings, no… We don’t!

The way young people use their mobile devices today is a very obvious example of the direction that mobile technology and technology in general is moving. Who’s to say that in one hundred years from now, Rebecca and Jill will be communicating by hologram devices instead of meeting at each other’s houses to gossip?

There used to be a time when you had to physically talk to someone in front of their face in order to communicate with them. Now, all we need to do is pick up a phone. The more we develop as a race and create new ways of talking to one another, the less actual human physical interaction we’ll need. We will no longer need that level of intimate human interaction or companionship.

Yes, communicating with a friend in any circumstance or by any means is still companionship but compare this companionship to what we have today. Now ask yourself this question… What comes next after holograms?

Are you in control of your phone or is your phone in control of you?

This is not just about addiction. This is about personal preference, enjoyment and yet again, generational values.

A mobile phone is an essential piece of hardware that is almost a must have for most people living in the western world. How many people know days have access to a 3G or 4G cellular mobile device that allows them to connect with anyone around the world? The answer is a A LOT of people.

When a device is so accessible and can do the above, then it becomes very difficult to not become a serial user of it.

But how do people control the amount they use it? Or is it even a major issue to people?

I for one am a complete addict when it comes to the need of my mobile device. It has become a necessity in my life as I’m sure it has for many other people.

I, as many other young people use it to not only connect with the world around me but also use it for countless hours of entertainment through the art of ‘scrolling’. Yes, ‘scrolling.’

Are these hours wasted or are these hours used spent ‘scrolling’ up and down Facebook and Instagram timelines on a mobile phone useful to your growth as a person?

For me, it brings out a sense of joy and happiness. I’m able to laugh and share these moments with friends and family. It allows me to start up conversation. It allows me to debate. It allows me to laugh and smile. Yes, these are all things that can be done without a phone, but what is the difference? Or is there even a difference?

It has long been debated that ‘real’ human interaction should not be disregarded for virtual human interaction but in a day where virtual reality is on the rise then should this really be the case?

There will be a day where your phone will begin to control you. For some people, this day may have come already. For others, this day is coming soon and for a few, this day will never come. Humans are not only getting smarter; we’re getting smarter faster.

Just remember that with all these smarts… We’re still the ones that have decided to forgo in the direction of virtual reality advancement. If we didn’t want our mobile phones to control us then they simply wouldn’t.